5 Things I’ve Observed and Learned This Year

While I touched on this during Episode 21 of Coaches Tuck Radio, I want to get this message spread through both audio and written mediums. The follow 5 points are observations that I’ve been making since opening DELTA Weightlifting, but it wasn’t until this year that it all came to a head and I started to formulate my thoughts into words and make conclusions based on what I was seeing and experiencing.

You will find that these observations are all intertwined and related in someway. The common theme and relationship between these 5 observations ultimately comes down to mentality and attitude. Reflect and make positive adjustments to your own mentality and attitude if need be. Enjoy!

1) People Have MAJOR Commitment Issues.

I’ve heard time and time again that “I WANT to qualify for this meet,” “I WANT to hit these numbers,” “I WANT to focus on and improve my weightlifting technique,” or simply “I WANT to sign up for membership.”

Whatever the “want” is, people think they know what they want, but when the rubber meets the road, they don’t really understand what is required of them to achieve what they want. When they are educated on what steps are needed to be taken in order to get what they want, people get scared of the actual commitment it will take, whether the commitment be time, money, effort, or all of the above.

Don’t be a pretender. Stop telling me what you want to do so you get the dopamine response from people giving you positive affirmations and pats on the back because you tell them you want to do something cool, challenging, or out of the norm. Put your head down, and don’t come up for air until you DO IT. Ultimately, people will think more highly of you if you commit and DO big things, as opposed to TALK about wanting to do big things with no follow up.

Improvement, progress, and success takes commitment, focus, and sacrifice. Simple as that.

2) People Have an EXPENSE Mindset, Rather Than an INVESTMENT Mindset.

Somewhat related to above, but people are scared to spend any money. Rather, people are more willing to keep schilling out $3 for a cup of coffee at least once a day, but not willing to invest in a coach or gym membership that will ultimately provide exponential improvement in their mind, body, and lifestyle.

People that have the intention of training 3-4x/week will pass on an “unlimited” membership and take a 2x/week membership to “save” $30/month. Think about that. They are limiting their progress and improvement for a mere extra $3.75-7.50 per extra training session because it is an extra “expense” and not an “investment.” If this is something you want to do or have the intention of doing, start making your coffee at home and right there that extra $30/month is covered and then some.

If you look at spending money on certain things as an expense, you are looking at is as a “sunk cost” that provides you with no value. However, if you look at spending money on certain things as an investment, you are looking at it from the standpoint that whatever financial investment you put in, you will get an exponential return on your investment. In the context of investing in coaching, your return may be priceless.

3) People Have Lost the Ability to Move Past Knee-Jerk Reactions and Actually Use Reason and Logic.

The polarizing sports columnist, radio and TV host, Jason Whitlock has said that we are living in a bubble of 140 characters. Whitlock is referring to our society’s knee-jerk reactions to headlines or posts on Twitter, and for that matter, all of social media, without taking the time to actually use reason and logic to think deeper than 140 characters and do their own research.

We are seeing this on the macro level of politics, but it is also trickling down to a micro level of training and the gym business.

As it pertains to training, if an athlete is called out and made to be accountable regarding mentality, recovery, effort, you name it, the knee jerk reaction is to take it personally, blame everyone and everything but themselves, or even just quit. There is no sense of ownership or ability to let the dust settle and think reasonably or logically about what is going on and what steps are needed to be taken to move forward and progress. Athletes are accepting their knee-jerk reaction as their “final answer.”

As it pertains to the gym business, prospective members may get sticker shock from membership prices and pass on signing up or committing, even though they come in espousing that they want to learn or get better at their technique, they want to compete, or they want to get strong and powerful.

This somewhat is related to topics #1 and #2, but because of their knee jerk reaction to the price, people are not able to push pass and use logic and reason to understand what brought them in the door in the first place – self-improvement and growth. This baffles me.

Get past your knee-jerk reaction, let the dust settle, and use some reason, logic, and critical thinking to help you make better choices and improvements in your life.

4) People That KNOW They Want to be Great, Will Be Great. Those That THINK They Want to Be Great, Will Be Mediocre.

There’s a reason why there is only one champion. The path to greatness is long, lonely, and difficult. Think about a marathon. The beginning of the race is almost overcrowded with people, but as the race progresses, the herd progressively thins out, and by the time the first place finisher crosses the line, you can only see one, maybe two or three other runners in the screenshot of the finish line.

Greatness is self-selecting and takes ultimate commitment and dedication. Not everyone is willing or able to be great, and that’s fine, but to pretend to want to be great when you aren’t willing to put in the work or sacrifice.

Those seeking greatness are self-motivated and do not need their hands held. They may need to be guided or redirected from time to time, but they are inherently attracted to hard work, sacrifice, and excel when faced with adversity.

If you want to strive to be the best you possibly can at something, you must be willing to exert your own blood, sweat, tears, and finances to make it happen. There can be no fence sitting. There can only be assertive commitment. When someone says “I think I want to do this,” chances are that person will not being doing “this” for very long, or not be fully committed enough to reach their full potential.

5) People are Largely Uncomfortable being Uncomfortable.

Weightlifting is physically and psychologically difficult.   You will be put in very uncomfortable positions throughout your training and competition career. Training is very much a microcosm for life. How you respond to uncomfortable situations in the gym shows to me how you will respond to uncomfortable situations outside of the gym in your personal life.

You must learn to become comfortable being uncomfortable. By doing this, it becomes much easier to successfully navigate through stressful and challenging situations both inside and outside of gym life.

Challenging yourself physically, mentally, financially, etc. has the potential to put you in uncomfortable and stressful situations. If you’re able to push through these difficult times in order to achieve more long term success, you will build grit and resiliency that will allow you to not only handle more adversity, but also achieve more!

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